I think people think of stay at home moms who blog as just stay at home moms. Most people in my life think of me as jobless. Just a mom with tons of hobbies? I don’t know, I guess until you are in it, or people can see you as a success, the building of brands and blogs and businesses look to people as more of a time-wasting hobby than a J.O.B. Like, hey lady, you could be mopping your floor right now.
But we do work. Hard, and often without a lot to show for it, at least at first. I think as bloggers, it can be easy to fall into the 24/7 lifestyle of emails and social media and whatever else our blogs entail without getting a dime for it. For me, I am spread about as thin as a person can be. I babysit my niece a few hours a week 4 days a week, have my blog, design clients, I run social media and blogs for 2 companies, we have a new business that we took on recently, and I have Reves & Paisley. Not to mention a house to clean, kids to care for who are starting school soon and have a ton of little things that need shopped for and turned in, and a fairly high maintenance husband. (This is just me, my personal current scenario, but you can easily insert your own things that you have going on and get what I mean.) Us women, entrepreneurial bloggers in particular, fill our plates to the edge and some people who aren’t in it don’t take it seriously. They just don’t.
Some days, I feel great! I get a ton of things accomplished, slam dunk a healthy dinner, sneak a run in, have a clean house and happy family. Then, there are the days I don’t get out of my pajamas, I sit on my computer for the whole day, look at the clock to see that it is dinner time, get take out, and have to weave my way through the toy disaster to get to the bathroom. All to feel that I didn’t accomplish anything of much value, even if I had been working the whole day long. Those are the days that I wonder if all of those people are right. Maybe I ought to spend more time cleaning and paying attention to my house and get a job with steady money, than working so hard on things that, let’s face it, might never pan out. Days like that can suck, but somehow, when I wake up, I change my attitude and charge on.
So why do I feel the need to even justify how I spend my time or what I am working to build? I don’t really, not normally. I don’t even really talk about all of my ventures to people outside of my immediate circle, but to you guys. You guys who do the same thing, it’s nice to know there are people out there, like me, that do believe what you are working on is an actual thing. That you are doing things that matter or could be something of value someday. When our blogs get zero comments in the dead of summer, and our shop sales are slow, it’s important not to let those people who underestimate what we are working toward make us feel like what we spend our very valuable time on, is a waste of time. Because if you find value in it, it’s not.
Whether you make $5 or $5000, frankly, it’s just none of their business. Tell them: you do you, I’ll do me. And some days, I get to do me- in my jammies.